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Should We Get Married or Break Up?
« on: September 08, 2015, 07:14:58 PM »

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Should We Get Married or Break Up?


Should We Get Married or Break Up?

Many serious dating relationships face a stage that I’ll call the “doldrums.” The definition of the doldrums is, “a state or period of inactivity and stagnation. “You’ve been dating for maybe a year or more. You like each other, but you’re not quite sure where you’re heading as a couple. You’re no longer in high school when it’s normal for relationships to stay stagnant. As a young adult, you feel the need to either step toward commitment or cut things off. But which should you choose? And which will he choose if you force the question?


If your mind works like mine, you probably change your mind every few days. At times you can convince yourself that this guy is “marriage potential.” But then something prompts you to reconsider. Can you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? What if there is someone better out there?


Many couples in this situation stay in the doldrums refusing to move forward or call it quits. You might even have decided to move in together as a quasi-commitment that seems to buy you some time. If this is the case, please check out this article, which addresses why that’s probably the wrong move.


It was a long time ago, but I can remember being in the doldrums with my husband before we got married. I liked him . . . really liked him. But he was nothing like the guy I thought I would marry. I had concerns about how different our backgrounds and personalities were, and I was terrified of making a mistake. In fact, during that season I often had nightmares that I had married the “wrong guy” and was stuck for life!


Some women say, “I just knew he was the one.” Honestly, I didn’t feel that way until Mike became “the one” the moment I said “I do.”


As an adult woman, a stagnant dating relationship is also not healthy. Yet, how do you discern whether to move things forward or backward? If this describes your relationship, here are three things you can do to answer that question.


1. Identify the “Red Flags”


In the doldrums, you probably have some hesitations about the guy you are dating. Instead of a vague sense of concern, it is key for you to pinpoint exactly what gives you pause. Over the course of a few days spend time thinking and praying, and then write down specifically why the relationship feels stuck.


Your list may look something like this:


  • My friends aren’t crazy about him.


Source: Should We Get Married or Break Up?

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http://www.faithwall.co.uk/index.php/15-christian-family/7382-should-we-get-married-or-break-up
http://www.todayschristianwoman.com/juli-slattery/2015/september/should-we-break-up-or-get-married.html?paging=off
http://www.todayschristianwoman.com/images/62662.jpg?w=620
http://www.todayschristianwoman.com/juli-slattery/2014/june/why-living-together-isnt-test-run-for-marriage.html
http://www.todayschristianwoman.com/juli-slattery/2013/december/how-do-i-know-hes-one.html
http://www.1faith.co.uk/family-home-forum/?action=post



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Offline Tes Johnson

Re: Should We Get Married or Break Up?
« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2016, 02:51:14 AM »
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Should We Get Married or Break Up?

Good question  :D

Diana

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Re: Should We Get Married or Break Up?
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2017, 01:40:05 AM »
I just knew from very early on(the first week) that my now husband was the one I wanted to marry. I never doubted it for a second, and never have since. If anyone has a lot of doubts, then I would suggest that he or she isnt the one.

Offline John

Re: Should We Get Married or Break Up?
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2017, 07:34:27 AM »
Interesting that there was nothing about respect for the man, or about having a plan to prepare for marriage.
It is assummed that the couple are Christian, why is this an assumption and not an essential?
Is he/she Christian isn't a tick box it is a three hour exam plus practical.

Equally there was no mention about chastity or whether they were sexualy active. not because of vogeurism but because the stats show that early sexual activity and multiply partners greatly increases the risk of marrital break ups.


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