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What Divorce Taught Me About True Love
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What Divorce Taught Me About True Love



What Divorce Taught Me About True Love


Since my marriage ended, God has gently shown me what marriage really means.


Lori Emery



What Divorce Taught Me About True Love






How many church pews have you sat in, watching a bride and groom gaze lovingly into each other’s eyes, listening as the pastor recites this familiar verse?



Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. . . . And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (1 Corinthians 13:4–8, 13, NIV)



And have you ever happened upon the uncomfortable scene, months or maybe only weeks after witnessing these vows, of that same happy couple at a dinner party fighting? I mean really fighting—even over something as silly as a toilet seat or the cap on the toothpaste.


Doesn’t it make you wonder if anyone really knows what these verses are supposed to mean, and why they are spoken at nearly every wedding?


My own marital experience encompasses 14 years, 9 months, and 25 days.


And then it ended.


What I Know Now


Being in a marriage had no impact on my understanding of what love is supposed to be. In my own marriage, love became selfish, a matter of grabbing what we each thought was ours. My feelings were tread upon again and again by him, and I became an expert grudge-holder. I complained about everything, even his beard shavings in the sink. A hope-filled journey morphed into distrust, complacency, and boredom. The more we hurt each other, intentionally or unintentionally, the less we loved—and the more room there was for dysfunction.


These simple, but powerful words from 1 Corinthians, carefully chosen and lovingly spoken at my own wedding, quickly faded into memory. It was only after falling out of love—and subsequently ending my marriage—that God opened my heart to these five truths about love:


1. Love is patient. Patience waits. I’m learning, now, that I should have held my tongue when I was frustrated. I should have waited to expose the fault of my spouse when I was wronged. This means not spilling all of your husband’s faults and foibles to your closest friends. Patience keeps quiet all the awful things you want to reveal about your husband because “dealing with it” isn’t the same as sharing it with every woman willing to listen.


2. Love is kind. Kindness calls for sacrificial giving. It’s submitting to one another—a contest, if you will—to see who can serve each other the best. Kindness is smiling when he walks in the door. Kindness is telling him you are proud of him—even when he leaves the toilet seat up for the one-thousandth time. Kindness listens.




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