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Is There Really a 7-Year Itch?
« on: June 27, 2015, 01:13:29 PM »

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Is There Really a 7-Year Itch?

4 practical things you can do to protect your marriage

My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we referred to the seven-year-something . . . itch? pit? slump? The other couples in the group started nervously teasing about what terrible blockade may lay in their marriage journey.

Is the seven-year-itch a real thing? If so, are you doomed to bump into it? And why does it happen in the seventh year?

While the seven-year-itch isn’t predictable enough to set your calendar by, some version of it seems to exist in most marriages. I can’t be sure that it was year seven when we hit ours, but it was pretty close. In fact, for a few months, I thought I would never again be qualified to teach on marriage again. My husband and I may not have been itching, but we also weren’t “clicking.”

Some couples say that their romance died in year four or that they couldn’t stand each other by year nine. But almost every marriage experiences a wall in intimacy that seems to make them rethink their vows.

Where Does the Itch Come From?

Chronologically, the seventh year typically represents the presence of young children in the home. Around this time of family life, demands are high and resources are limited. The couple is trying to navigate who takes care of a sick kid, how to make ends meet on a tight budget, and how to succeed at work when your spouse and kids need you at home. Both husband and wife feel exhausted, overworked, and underappreciated. Whether they say it out loud or not, they both wonder, “What about my life? What happened to my dreams? I feel like I woke up in someone else’s life.”

Because time, energy, and money are short, a couple in this stage of marriage rarely has a chance to enjoy each other. When they laugh together, it’s probably because one of the kids said something funny. They’ve become “mom and dad” and forgotten how to be “husband and wife.” Great sex might happen once a year. Realistically, you’re never both “in the mood” at the same time, which also happens to be when the children are quiet and don’t need you. Advice like, “Go on a date night once a week” sounds good but seems impossible to implement.

The lack of fun, intimacy, and sex leaves you both open to temptation. A coworker compliments you or laughs at your jokes and you realize that he’s a lot more fun to be around than your husband. Or you might get curious about the guy you dated in high school and look him up on Facebook. This gets you wondering what life could have been like with someone else.

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Re: Is There Really a 7-Year Itch?
« Reply #1 on: June 27, 2015, 01:39:57 PM »
Deuteronomy 15:1 At the end of every seven years you must cancel debts.

Letting go - debt - forgiveness - value - salvation - out of prison - release

Matthew 18:27 The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

 No greater love than this

Luke 7:43 Simon replied, "I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven." "You have judged correctly," Jesus said.

be a debtor to no man

Romans 13:8  Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others
 has fulfilled the law.

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