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Are You Married to a Man-Child?
« on: October 24, 2014, 01:06:08 PM »

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Are You Married to a Man-Child?

Are You Married to a Man-Child?
What to do when your husband won’t grow up
By Dr. Juli Slattery




He may be over six feet tall and intimidating to a stranger, but he still behaves like he’s 15. He spends hours a day playing the PS4, can’t make a decision, and throws a temper tantrum when he doesn’t get his way. Does this describe your husband? If so, you’re not alone.
It seems to be more common than not that a young wife finds herself married to a man who resembles an adolescent. There are a lot of reasons why this is a growing trend, so perhaps we will save that analysis for another day and another article. Regardless of how you got there, the question is: What do you do when your husband won’t grow up?
For many women, this represents a pivotal crisis in marriage. The right response will lay the groundwork for healthy intimacy while the wrong response can propel the relationship into a tailspin.
Boy Meets Girl
Addressing this problem in your marriage begins by acknowledging that your husband isn’t the only one who needs to grow up. Yes, you can point to a hundred ways you may be more responsible and mature than he is. While your frustration may be justified, it also probably points to your own immaturity. I know because I’ve been there.
Addressing this problem in your marriage begins by acknowledging that your husband isn’t the only one who needs to grow up.
When my husband and I got married, I appeared on the surface to be more mature than he was. I was goal-oriented, knew what I wanted from life, and had been a Christian far longer than my husband. As much as I loved Mike’s laid-back approach to life when we were dating, I fumed about it once we were married. In my internal dialogue, I complained about always having to be the serious one, the responsible one. I remember one incident that represented the early years of our marriage.
Mike and I lived in a two-story townhouse. We agreed we would clean the house together on Saturdays—he would clean the upstairs and I would clean the downstairs. Along came Saturday. After breakfast, I grabbed the cleaning supplies and tackled my part of the house. Mike turned on the TV. Long after I had finished my part of the house, Mike decided to go for a run . . . then lunch . . . then a nap. As the hours wore on, I seethed with anger. By about 9 p.m., I self-righteously grabbed the cleaning supplies and began working on the upstairs. I’m sure I sighed loudly and slammed cupboards, letting my new husband know what a martyr he had married. I was so mad at my husband that I slept on the couch that night. I really lost it when Mike came downstairs the next morning, chuckling at me sprawled on the couch. “Well, I got a good night’s sleep!” he informed me.

Source: Are You Married to a Man-Child?
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